Image via Wikipedia| Jun 21, 2010 | Give me a break! I grew up in a home with loving, generally conservative parents who genuinely cared for my well being. They were honest with me from a very young age about the truths of life, including sex, and didn't attempt to shelter me from them. Instead, they attempted to teach me about life truths so that I would understand them, and not fall prey to misconception and/or peer pressure. They explained that sex is a natural, beautiful thing that happens between two people who care about each other. They also taught me about the possible consequences, good and bad, and stressed that I should refrain from having sex until I was absolutely certain I was able to deal with them responsibly. As a child I saw and heard my parents having sex somewhat frequently. There was nothing exhibitionist or inappropriate about it. There were times, such as vacation or camping, when avoiding their encounters was not possible, but most of the time I would just leave them to their business. As a maturing young male, I actually learned many things through observation about how to be a considerate partner and make love (not just have sex) that couldn't be adequately conveyed in conversation, and that pornography is wholly incapable of portraying. It seems to me that the problem isn't so much that having sex in front of your children is itself damaging, but that a lack of thoughtful parenting, and critical thinking about how to prepare your children to deal with sex, and indeed other life truths, that's the problem. |
Here is a good quote from a person that is not me at all. Even though I did not write it, I agree with it completely. It is not that sex or anything is good or bad, but how it is taught...by parents.
Believe it or not, sex is a very important aspect of life. Where would we be without reproduction? Where are we with the lack of sexual understanding? This blog is not to teach the details of sex, but it is to show the importance of parents teaching it to their own children. When I read this article, I knew it would be good to help represent my cause.
In this article, you will read very serious negative comments. Sadly this is the results of bad information and horrible religious trolls. If parents follow this concept of the comment I pasted in the beginning of this blog post, there will never be any issues. Sex is not an evil thing. It is a wonder experience that two people share with each other that love each other dearly.
It is how you teach your children that allow you as parents to know what to do regarding them seeing love making by you. In ancient times, children saw a lot more that is mentioned in this article. It is amazing that we can make a big deal over what has been seen in human history. Some even made love with family. Some from ancient Egypt and the Royal Family of Britain. Sex was more open and done before all the silliness of people today.
This blog is not to tell parents or anyone how to teach children, but it is to say that children can only learn about their bodies, sexuality, and all the rest in life from parents. School, churches, and society have their place to teach children about academics of life. They are not to replace parenthood. Seeing sex is not pornography. Porn is not reality...sexuality is reality.
It is confusing to me in away that we can see other animals, on educational shows, having sex and not get disturbed, but we freak out completely when it comes to human sexuality. It clear that sex and porn are not the same, so what is the hang up? It could not be religion fully. Morality is not the issue. Through the years of civilization, morality has changed, but we stay firm to our civil liberties. Why do humans go crazy with human sexuality?
The simplest answer is the media. There were more maturity with sex even in ancient times because we did not have easy access to the misconception of sex. The media is not evil, but it sure shows a lot of immaturity than one can count. Now that we have the Internet, it is so easy to get a hold of free porn. If there is a time that we need proper parenthood, it is now.
Love from parents goes far beyond raising their children. It is the ability to present what is important to their children. I have stated in many post: "Who would you rather teach your children, the media or you?" These are your children. Who can do a better job?
Honesty is the key. Being a parent does not take a brain surgeon. To be open with your children will make all the difference to them. What parent does not want their children to have a great sex life when they become adults...even in marriage? If children or teenagers see it on the media, they will get confused.
Sheltering your children too much can do more damage than good when they become adults. if you can prepare them with truth so when they see things that are immoral from outside the home, they will be able to utilize that information and not be confused or tempted. It is completely up to you parents on what you do share and teach, but do it fully and completely without any fear. Children are very, very observant. They will see your body language and listen to how you present sex to them.
Parents, please know this if not anything else: you can never keep your children from what is being presented on the media (tv, movies, Internet, etc.). The FLOT (Forward Line of Troops) Line is in the home against immorality and any dangers they will run up against in their lives as children and adults. It is so important that you raise and teach your children right.
